Simply Gabb

Welcom to Gabby's World! Buckle up for the ride.

I don’t care about losing people who don’t wanna be in my life anymore. I’ve lost people who meant the world to me and I’m still doing just fine.

http://thehoosh.tumblr.com/post/83152183284/im-becoming-more-and-more-myself-everyday

thehoosh:

I’m becoming more and more myself everyday . . It’s like I’m waking into a dream. The easiest way I can convey this is through the prevailing model of consumerism, and I don’t mean it’s political or corporate rip-roars. It’s the subtleties of consumerism that I want to illustrate:

A consumer…

gradientlair:

#LoveMeLike is a beautiful and affirming hashtag started by @Blackamazon with over 6,000 tweets published where Black women spoke honestly about the type of love we need and deserve. This wasn’t just about romantic love in a heteronormative frame (especially for me as an ace) as some would expect but about love as affirmation of humanity, as power and as justice, which would include that aforementioned frame and much more. The Huffington Post's Black Voices featured the hashtag and included my first tweet above in the article Hashtag #LoveMeLike Takes Twitter By Storm As Black Women Share Empowering MessagesTo see all of the tweets sent from everyone, not just my own on my own blog, click the hashtag link above.

The hashtag surfaced after a few Black men asked what do Black men love about Black women and unfortunately many (not all) of the replies only mentioned Black women as objects of labor or loyalty, not as humans worth loving outside of service. @Blackamazon asked:

Black women, how do we want to be loved? How do we need to be loved? Because we can love Black women. But do we love Black women enough to honor their requests, their self determination? It’s easy to love something when you feel it can’t make demands back but LOVE, loving someone to be the best they want to be? 

One complaint that I saw surface was that the conversation was too “political.” I mentioned this:

Personal is political. If you think love—especially for Black women—doesn’t involve the political, you’ve gotta re-examine the last four centuries. When Black men name reasons they don’t love Black women, most are shaped by patriarchy and the White Gaze. And those two things are political. How love is expressed is more than sexual romantic and matters for Black women more than just dating. Thus, to claim Black women are “forcing” feminism into love? No. If lack of love we receive is shaped by oppression, we need anti-oppression terms. Anti-oppression is inherently personal. There is no way to remove my need for humanity and freedom from discussions on love.

Of course self-love is critical, but self-love alone is not justice. Again, love is more than romantic, sexual, or heteronormative. Love isn’t about “earning” humanity through “respectability,” through others’ perception of Black women having "enough" self esteem to be deemed lovable or having our humanity on trial to just to gain basic respect. Black women knowing how we want to be loved matters. 

I found this tag to be very moving and affirming and I’m glad to have been a part of it. It’s a womanist act to see ourselves worthy of love and to be able to name what that love looks like, especially since Black women being denied our humanity, let alone love, is standard in this oppressive society.

Love me like you have the willingness to affirm what I’ve stated here for myself and for other Black women who relate without the need to derail this post or harm me. 

"Without justice there can be no love." - bell hooks

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A woman should be… whatever the fuck she wants

aminaabramovic:

please watch this from beginning to end

(Source: videohall, via curvellas)

zacmackenzy:

Tips to get rid of stress. 

(Source: muura)

gainsandlosses:

runsleepygirl:

ryanjjohn:

Every day I struggle between “I wanna look good naked” and “treat yo self.”

this speaks to me so deeply

Seriously.

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absquatulate:

portraitsofboston:

“When people tell you that they love the new New Orleans, what they mean is that they love that the poor were kicked out and social services were eliminated so they can make more money.
A lot of people suffered because of Katrina, but even more people suffered because of political games and corruption. I believe more people died as a result of the closure of Charity Hospital than as a result of the storm.There were so many injustices. Public housing projects were not allowed to reopen. Private landlords were not allowed to reopen affordable multifamily apartment complexes in places where working class people live. 
All this had the collective effect of denying people affordable housing and jacking up the rent for what was left. As a result, New Orleans now has the highest rental cost relative to income of any city in the country.In August of 2005, right before the storm, we had 8,000 unionized teachers. After the storm, the state legislature voted to fire all of them and replace them with non-union people. They got a lot of kids from the ritzier schools around the country coming down here as part of what was called ‘Teach for America.’ We called it ‘Scab for America.’ They were sending kids from upper- and upper-middle class background to working-class, mostly African-American schools. They didn’t know anything about New Orleans. They had no ties, no understanding. And these were kids who thought they were doing something good. I think they were being manipulated. It was simply politically advantageous for some people.
The whole country has changed. It’s not the country I was born into. When I was born, this country had the 12th highest life expectancy. By 2010, we dropped to 34th. I hear these excuses that people are fat, like me, or that they eat bad food. Well, why the hell do they eat bad food? Because it’s the only thing they can afford. They can’t buy organic or go to a nice restaurant, so they buy a hamburger. Or they don’t have the time to cook a healthy meal, so they buy a TV dinner and throw it on the plate. Americans work, work, work, work and work. They have to. Just to survive. Americans now devote a greater share of the year to labor than any other industrialized country except South Korea. It’s very hard for people to find leisure time. They ask, ‘Why are Americans so out of it?’ And stuff like that. Well, think about it: If you had no paid vacation and you had bills to pay, and if you didn’t pay them you’d be thrown out on the street, what would you be doing all day? You’d be working. So people don’t have time to read; they don’t have time to write; they don’t have time to dance; they don’t have time to think. Leisure time for the average person has almost disappeared. The whole society has been restructured and all it means is money for the wealthiest.”
*In New Orleans

So. Much. Truth.
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absquatulate:

portraitsofboston:

“When people tell you that they love the new New Orleans, what they mean is that they love that the poor were kicked out and social services were eliminated so they can make more money.

A lot of people suffered because of Katrina, but even more people suffered because of political games and corruption. I believe more people died as a result of the closure of Charity Hospital than as a result of the storm.
There were so many injustices. Public housing projects were not allowed to reopen. Private landlords were not allowed to reopen affordable multifamily apartment complexes in places where working class people live. 

All this had the collective effect of denying people affordable housing and jacking up the rent for what was left. As a result, New Orleans now has the highest rental cost relative to income of any city in the country.
In August of 2005, right before the storm, we had 8,000 unionized teachers. After the storm, the state legislature voted to fire all of them and replace them with non-union people. They got a lot of kids from the ritzier schools around the country coming down here as part of what was called ‘Teach for America.’ We called it ‘Scab for America.’ They were sending kids from upper- and upper-middle class background to working-class, mostly African-American schools. They didn’t know anything about New Orleans. They had no ties, no understanding. And these were kids who thought they were doing something good. I think they were being manipulated. It was simply politically advantageous for some people.

The whole country has changed. It’s not the country I was born into. When I was born, this country had the 12th highest life expectancy. By 2010, we dropped to 34th. I hear these excuses that people are fat, like me, or that they eat bad food. Well, why the hell do they eat bad food? Because it’s the only thing they can afford. They can’t buy organic or go to a nice restaurant, so they buy a hamburger. Or they don’t have the time to cook a healthy meal, so they buy a TV dinner and throw it on the plate. Americans work, work, work, work and work. They have to. Just to survive. Americans now devote a greater share of the year to labor than any other industrialized country except South Korea. It’s very hard for people to find leisure time. They ask, ‘Why are Americans so out of it?’ And stuff like that. Well, think about it: If you had no paid vacation and you had bills to pay, and if you didn’t pay them you’d be thrown out on the street, what would you be doing all day? You’d be working. So people don’t have time to read; they don’t have time to write; they don’t have time to dance; they don’t have time to think. Leisure time for the average person has almost disappeared. The whole society has been restructured and all it means is money for the wealthiest.”

*In New Orleans

So. Much. Truth.

(via jeankd)

oeuniverse:

In order to become the supreme adult, you must perform the seven wonders:

  • Public speaking
  • Not being afraid of teenagers
  • Calling the doctor yourself
  • Taxes
  • Arguing without crying
  • Having a normal sleep pattern
  • Having an answer to the question ‘what do you want to do with your life?’

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estrella-fuego:

For as long as I can remember I always wanted to be a gangster. 

One of my absolute favorite movies.

(Source: widespindriftgaze)

People act like Black girls are born with a little tube of relaxer & a note that says, ‘My bad.’- God.
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